CODE OF CONDUCT
- People are more important than the larp. Safety is our first priority. Respect all the game security rules.
- Each person’s body is their own. They alone may set their boundaries and say what makes them comfortable. Please be clear establishing your limits, both physical and emotional. Don’t be afraid to modify your limits during the game.
- Consent must be freely given, vocalized, and is considered inviolable. Respect everyone’s boundaries and don’t tease, gossip about, ostracize, or retaliate against someone who has set a consent boundary. In fact, we would like you to thank your fellow co-players for setting boundaries, as practicing active consent negotiations allows everyone to feel more comfortable.
- Off-game harassment, abuse, or assault of any participant – or using the alibi of a character to harass, abuse, or assault a player – is not tolerated. This includes any reference to the race, gender identity or presentation, sexuality, body size, conventional beauty, age, and experience.
- Each participant is responsible for their own actions; for reading, understanding, and abiding by the Code of Conduct; and for the consequences of their actions to others.
- A player might harm another member, whether intentional or not, and must accept the responsibility of their actions. If you are informed about this kind of situation, you are expected to reflect this in your future behavior. Don’t deflect, blame, or become defensive if you are informed that you have harmed someone.
- No one should ostracize or retaliate against any member for setting a consent boundary, or for making a report of harassment or abuse.
- If you witness someone behaving in a manner that is against our Code of Conduct, we encourage you to ask them to stop. Please also inform the Safety Team of the incident. You may report anonymously if you feel more comfortable doing so, and we will respect your privacy.
Inform the organization about any health problem or allergies we should take into consideration.
Emergency: “Emergency, stop playing.” Everyone should stop their scene.
– Green (or one tap on the shoulder): When someone uses this, the other player(s) can raise their game intensity. It is a suggestion, not an order.
– Yellow (or tapping the shoulder twice): When someone uses this, the other player(s) must lower their game intensity. This is an order you have to follow.
– Red: The scene stops immediately. This is an order. Ask the person who stopped the scene what they need.
Comments about the body of the players are prohibited.
There is an out-of-game space that works as a safety net for players. If your play is having any negative impact on you, you can come here to eat, rebalance, relax, or get a hug. There will not be a GM in the safe zone all the time, but we are all available to help you 24/7 at the location.
ARE YOU OK?
Gamemasters or other players can ask if a player is ok with this sign:
You can reply with:
“Yes, I am ok”.
“Not sure.” This hand signal means the player doesn’t quite know how they feel or that they feel neither good nor bad. This should be treated as a thumbs down by the person doing the asking. Please ask the player if they want to get to the safe space.
“No, I am not.” Please bring the player to the safe space.
The organization does not have a First Aid Team to deal with health problems that happen during the event, but the nearest doctor is less than 15 minutes from the location. Please inform us of any health problems or allergies we should take into consideration, and tell us the proper way of dealing with them. If you can volunteer to help on our First Aid Team, please contact us at: firstname.lastname@example.org
We have a first aid kit, but this does not include medication; everyone must bring their own medicine.
The organization has a Safety Team to deal with any issue that threatens attendee safety or violates the Code of Conduct.
Feel free to bring any complaint to our Safety Team; each complaint received will be evaluated on a case-by-case basis.
SAFETY TEAM MEMBERS
Esperanza Montero, Chiara Tiarabasso, Elena Cacahuete.
Our definition of harassment may not necessarily align with legal definitions of harassment. Therefore, attendees should regard the following guidelines as expectations of conduct in addition to legally actionable actions. In other words, the legal expectations of tangible proof is not necessary for the Safety Team to take action upon a complaint.
For our purposes, harassment includes:
- Verbal comments or displayed images that denigrate individuals based upon gender, gender identity/expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, age, religion, political beliefs, philosophies, geographic origin, or socioeconomic status;
- Physical or verbal intimidation or any other behavior that reasonable individuals would view as abusive;
- Body policing, including gender policing in all bathrooms;
- Non-consensual physical or emotional interactions;
- Non-consensual sexual acts;
- And unwelcome sexual attention, whether verbal or physical.
This harassment policy applies to both in-person and online activities. Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately. Our volunteers and committee members are also subject to the anti-harassment policy.
Please consider that in-game harassment is part of the design.
We will provide members of the Safety Team detailed instructions and training procedures in case of a violation of code emergency. Attendees can report harassment at any time:
Before the event: If you are privy to information about harassment toward yourself or someone else by someone in the community at large, please email us at email@example.com. Please include as many details as you consider necessary. These messages will remain strictly confidential, known only to the members of the Safety Team. Reports received about registered attendees before the event are subject to the same consequences as those received during the game.
During the event: If a violation of the Code of Conduct transpires, please inform a member of the Safety Team as soon as you consider necessary. You can reach them personally or through any other member of the Not Only Larp Team. If you believe the violation requires an immediate intervention from the Safety Team, please use the Panic Button. We will also provide phone numbers for on-staff Safety members at the start of the event in case of emergency.
After the event: You may choose to wait until after the event to report a violation, in which case, please email firstname.lastname@example.org
Possible Disciplinary Steps for Violations
Disciplinary Steps are organized into two levels based upon the severity of the violation.
Level 1: Monitoring the individual in question, pulling the individual aside to discuss the violation, and/or issuing verbal warnings.
Level 2: Removing the individual from the game and, potentially, from future Not Only Larp events.
This document is inspired by the safety documents from Conscience, Living Games Conference, New World Magischola, and Just a Little Lovin’.